Recently, I was watching a show where one of the characters was discussing her unraveling marriage. She had come to the conclusion that sometimes love just isn’t enough.
Is it?
Is love enough?
I think to answer that question you have to know what love means.
In my younger years, love was that butterfly feeling you got when that cute boy noticed you in the hallway. It was receiving a note filled with promises and dreams from your boyfriend. It was the feeling of excitement, adventure, and the rush of emotion.
Is that what it means to you today? Because that’s not how I see love any more. Love to me is showing up each and every day, especially when you don’t feel like it. Love in marriage has been navigating life…like figuring out dinner in the midst of dirty diapers and cranky toddlers or how to carve out time for just each other. Love in marriage right now is sleepless nights with more bodies in our bed than when we first fell asleep…in my t-shirt and baggy pants. Love is living together in community, even when we might not want to that day.
In a nutshell…love is a CHOICE, not necessarily a feeling. Love is choosing someone despite the circumstances (unless those circumstances are dangerous/harmful). Love is never giving up. Love is seeing someone else through God’s eyes.
Can you find this kind of love in money? In fame? In power? In a promotion?
Often we try to find fulfillment in the love of things in this world. However, true love is modeled by Christ. True love is placing our hearts in His hands and watching Him transform our lives for His purpose. His love never fails. His love fulfills.
Is love enough? Only when it’s grounded in His love. May we share the agape love of Christ with others so that they may discover Him.
John 13:34-35
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Ashley
“This is the day the Lord hath made let us rejoice and be glad in it.”
Come To the Table Ministry 
I’ve been married for 35 years and for the longest time I felt where did that loving feeling go. It took a counselor to tell me that beginning love relationships are lust and it just keeps changing. Love matures as your life changes with kids etc. it’s not about the second anymore , it’s about taking care of your husband , kids, business and sometimes elderly parents.
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Thank you for sharing. I agree. The type of love I feel after 13 years of marriage goes so much deeper. Do I still get butterflies? Sure! But it’s so much more than that!
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